Rewriting Bad Advice #1
January 5th, 2009 by Cali & Jody
Faithful readers of this blog know that we have an axe to grind with bad workplace advice. Now we’ve decided we’re going to do something about it. Instead of (or maybe we should say in addition to) complaining, we’re going to take the offending articles and (lovingly) rewrite them.
First up, a story from the Wall Street Journal career blog called Ways Women Can Hold Their Own in a Male World. We’re tempted to make a cheap joke about how this piece seems like it should have been written in 1978 instead of 2008. But then again, as women who’ve experienced their share of workplace sexism, we understand the heart of this piece is in the right place.
Unfortunately, the advice in this article is geared more toward surviving a male-dominated workplace, than changing it. And since we’re all about change, here is our take on how we’d like to see a piece like this play out:
Make sure women are valued
The piece says you look for a culture that values women. Better to find a work culture that values results. At Best Buy, we found that a Results-Only Work Environment made affinity groups less relevant. A culture that focuses on results doesn’t eliminate racial or sexual bias, but it’s hard for a manager to discriminate if expectations and outcomes are crystal clear.
Identify alpha and beta males
It’s true that different people have different work styles. But it’s unnecessary for a woman to tailor her communication style in order to survive. The article notes that alpha males like “goal-oriented” language while betas prefer to collaborate. In a ROWE, people understand that everyone benefits from both approaches.
Find a mentor
No beef here. The only modification we’d like to offer is that your ideal mentor doesn’t have to be a woman. Your ideal mentor should be as committed to a results-only world as you are.
Speak assertively
Nothing wrong with speaking your mind. As long as it’s about results. Demand clear expectations. Demand constant communication about outcomes. Demand transparency. But don’t do it to show you’re just as good as a man. Do it because it’s the right thing for you and your company.
Socialize with the boys
We’re not big fans of forced fun. We feel that socializing for the sake of socializing actually undermines a work culture. If people believe that getting ahead means being a good person to hang out with, then that’s not good for anyone. We’re not advocating being rude, but being a professional who gets things done should be good enough for everyone.
Don’t assume stereotypical roles
The piece says as a woman you don’t want to appear servile. This will help you avoid falling into stereotypical roles. We agree. We’d also like to add a few other behaviors that will stereotype you: putting in lots of face time, staying late to appear dedicated, and lying about why you’re late. In short, anything that supports a work culture based on time and physical presence has to go.
Final note: If you ever run across any workplace advice that gives you chills, please drop us a note at caliandjody@caliandjody.com or leave a link in the comments.






